Leadership in Chaos (8) – Honesty –

“Why honesty when you have no idea what to think first or where to turn when you´re totally lost?”
She stared blank at me.
My eyes were following her rolling eyebrows before I met her eyes. I didn´t wanted to look deeper in that moment.

“Self communication”.
“Self, what?”
Okay, I tried again: “it´s about your self communication. How do you speak to yourself when you have to be your best friend in such a moment?” My words caused a pause….

“I can´t tell, I don´t remember.”
She looked away. I looked at her, curiously. “May I give you the advice to remember it, next time you´re in chaos?”
“Yes, thanks. And that´s something which will keep me busy and calm as well. Good advice….”
“Be honest to agree to yourself that you do not know what to do in the very first moment. Be fair to not being perfect. That´s the first step out of chaos. The second step is to gather all your knowledge of what to possibly do next. Don´t stay in chaos, get away. And yes, you have to learn. The more you know the more you will turn self-confident. Life is training! And chaos is training as well.”

There was this look on her face and she offered me following secret thought: “I think the first time I was in chaos in my life was as a little child, right when I turned around and knew that I lost my mom…..”

If you use a lot of “wrapping”, marketing wise, when communicating in your life, be sure you can still be honest. You don´t have to show it to everyone if you don´t like to, but at least –> to yourself. It´ll be most challenging when you start having health issues.

A DECISION is a choice between some alternatives of different variants.
If you´re more and more challenged by chaos in life you´re RAISING your competence in decisions-making.
Chaos is necessary and it´s the shortest way to improve your skills for a stronger survival. Be glad to be in chaos sometimes. Why? Because there is a way out and upward. Recall that you can only move out of chaos with what you already have or own.

Challenge and change is the price of progress. Lead by lifting yourself up! Start with you first and then turn to others.

Making a decision is the will to fight.


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5 Responses to “Leadership in Chaos (8) – Honesty –”

  1. Luis Rosario
    June 1, 2012 at 7:22 pm #


    Gr8 point, chaos is a training. I think that’s a great perspective, if you look at it that way then you have a different approach to it. I think perspective is essential when dealing in chaos.

    Keep up the great work!


    • rita jaskolla →
      June 1, 2012 at 7:54 pm #

      Thank you Luis –
      I figured it is the best point to look at challenges by chaos as a training since I was “forced to learn”, I just couldn´t run off.

  2. Tanya
    June 2, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

    I like your point about not trying to be perfect. We cannot make any progress if we are focused on the wrong details or if we’re standing still. Thanks again for a great post!

  3. tony →
    June 2, 2012 at 11:10 pm #

    Great info Rita!! I love honesty!!!

    • rita jaskolla →
      June 3, 2012 at 2:25 pm #

      Yes Tony: one day we sure need it!